Secretly Gay

Gore Vidal was once said to have remarked in an interview that the "hysteria over homosexuality" reduced friendships between men to mere suspicion, implying that any deep affection between men must be sexual.  He was critical of how society imposed rigid labels on human relationships, particularly when it came to male friendship, assuming a sexual-type undertone--specifically, labeling a man/men in such a friendship/friendships as "really gay"--oversimplified and cheapened the complexity of emotional bonds.  

How this began is when antilife (will explain more later; for now just treat it like the word bad) started characterizing any dislike of homoerotic exhibitionism as secretly gay.  That developed into calling any man who expressed any dislike of homoerotic behavior as a repressed desirer of such behavior, as though the repression of such desires was the only possible reason for such ridiculous behavior as thinking those were bad things.  

These claims were and are ridiculous.  They are like saying that Muslims attacking Europe secretly wanted to pray to Jesus, that crusaders were secretly wanting to pray instead to Allah, and so forth.  Such behavior, though--like increasing immigration flows into Europe--is not new; it is recurring.  Insisting on the building of a religious facility devoted to a Middle Eastern man saw its beginning with the people advocating for the first church in Rome, not the first mosque in Brussels.  Men desiring homoerotic friction have dressed and acted like women as part of that as long as there have been clothes, but transgender people now act and generally truly believe what they are doing is new.  Such a male doing such a thing as dating a MTF (a "male to female"; a "transwoman") and believing that he is not gay but likes women has been seen before for at least 1000 years.  

Wherefrom came the claim that men disliking the idea of male homoeroticism resulted from repressed homoeroticism?  It started from the way that males pursuing and participating in homoerotic interactions ("gays") cloaked their time spent together by calling it friendship.  What would happen is an angry wife, a curious mother, a few friends, etc., would ask the gay why he had been over at that dude's house again.  And for all night!  "I was worried (or 'We couldn't have the game' depending)!"  The gay would think fast and launch into some ridiculous excuse about his friend's train set breaking and him having to fix it, the traffic was so horrible, and so forth.  

This developed.  Now, a gay man may participate in gay activities with one or more other gay men, and explain them away by claiming that they were doing something like appreciating nature, hunting, at band practice, and so forth.  To create an even better lie, they could take a bunch of pictures one afternoon of a week-long absence, shoot a deer and claim everything else got away, or record a few songs.  End result, 90% of the time was spent assfuc--oh civility--was spent at gay activities, and 10% at covering up those activities.  

The evolution of such deceit has led to an attack in the form of saying that men who do not do such things are repressed.  Therefore, men who have other men as friends, and men who don't speak well about gay activities/politics, are called repressed (Bad Santa reference to this).  

The end result has been much as with many other things in Christianized societies.  Insults become commonplace, and the original nonsense of the deceits--pretending that gay acts are non-gay outings--continue exactly as before.  The old places of what was destroyed remain there for the newcomers to exploit, and people trying to do real things are labeled the enemy.